Disclaimer! This post contains strong language and spoilers for Brooklyn Nine Nine’s fifth season.
Let’s start 2018 with a post about feminism because… why not?
This issue has been bothering me for ages. And I don’t understand it. I literally don’t.
I borrowed the title of this post from a segment on HBO’s “Last Week Tonight”, where John Oliver tries to figure out the reason why old traditions and “things” stop exists.
Anyway, what I want to talk about is: why is there still this stupid-ass tradition of asking a girl’s father permission to marry her?
It’s not a rhetorical question, I’ll genuinely like to know.
And moreover, why are they always shoving it down our throats on TV shows?
Take the Bachelor/Bachelorette franchise: they make such a big deal out of it! Asking the father permission to marry his daughter. Utter bullshit.
Are we in the Middle Ages or the 1950s? Have we reversed to “women being properties of their fathers or husbands”?
This makes me so fucking angry. Why do we, as a society, have this belief that it is romantic? It’s not. It’s a man asking another man a question about a woman’s life without taking her into consideration.
A proposal should be about the people in the relationship, not about them and the girl’s father.
And television doens’t help this problem. But here I don’t want to talk about those. I want to celebrate those shows that do it right.
Take Brooklyn Nine Nine. This season Jake proposed to Amy in the most adorable and sweet way imaginable.
And when asked if Jake had asked Amy’s father’s permission, this is what he said:
THIS is what television should teach us.
and with that, I’ll leave you to it.
Please comment and start a discussion. I’d like to hear your thoughts.